Well I thought it was about time that I wrote an update I keep saying to myself every week “I really need to update my blog and subscribers”… And guess what… I haven’t been getting round to it!
So this really brings me onto why I have not got round to it I guess…
About 12 months ago I decided I wanted to change the way I was building my business. I literally spent most of February last year writing down all the things that I wanted to change. Every day I would add more things to the list!
Now anybody who really knew me at this time would have probably said something like “Stuart, why the HELL would you want to change ANYTHING? Do you have any idea how lucky you actually are!”
You see a typical day for me at this time would be to drag myself out of bed in the morning when ever the hell I felt like it. Have a late breakfast, check my emails, head to the gym, have lunch, take the dogs for a walk, check my emails to see how much money I had made and then maybe head out for dinner and meet some friends.
Day-in, day-out I lived this laid back lifestyle and to top it of I was making thousands of dollars a day.
I would usually go abroad every six weeks or so, play golf 2-3 times a week (at least try and play) and had pretty much zero stress in my life…
So, I suppose it’s pretty easy to see why people (particularly with the way the economy is right now) would ask the question – Why the hell would I want to change anything!
So this leads me onto the ‘Big Why!’
I suppose a lot of it was down to how I was feeling in myself. Bearing in mind I was just 28 years old (I am now only 29 in case you struggle with Maths ) I guess I kind of woke up to the fact that I couldn’t realistically live another 10, 20 or even 30 years like this without getting seriously BORED!. It was almost a JOKE!
Whilst most people were worried about their jobs, fed up with the commute to work, struggling to find the time and money to take one holiday a year.. I was just this average guy chilling out every day without a care in the world making a killing online.
I think unless you experience this it is almost impossible to imagine how it feels. To be totally honest at first it did feel good… No let me rephrase that – REALLY good.
It felt good knowing that because I decided to take action (despite a lot of feedback from family and friends telling me that making money online wouldn’t work) that I had managed to achieve this ‘dream lifestyle’
I worked so hard to learn how to build an online business. Bearing in mind I was a complete internet marketing newbie and already worked 70 hours a week in my job.
It almost felt like I should be giving everyone around me the middle finger whilst reaping the rewards of my hard work.
But here is the thing… Once you have a couple of years like this it soon becomes boring. Let me try and explain… Lets take the example of buying my Porsche 911 Turbo. The day I bought it I couldn’t wait to show it to my mates. In fact I drove straight round to my best mates houses and took him for a spin. Then I went to another mates house and took him for a spin. And do you know what….. then I went to another mates house and took him for a spin…
Sounds pretty cool right……
Wrong! Something I started to learn very quickly is that I was distancing myself from my very own mates. It wasn’t that they were jealous or anything like that. It was simply that we were on different wave lengths. Whilst they were struggling to even get through the month, there was me changing my car every few months, taking vacations every few weeks and having no dead end job to go to every day.
We’d go out for dinner or meet up at the pub and all they ever spoke about was how crap their lives were, how much they hated their jobs and how bloody skint they were.
And do you know what, not ONE of them ever asked what exactly I was doing and if I could teach them to make more money. Not ONE of them! You see I am not the kind of guy to push people to want change. Sometimes I wonder if I should be but to be honest I am not.
One thing I do know is that if one of my mates had gone from working 70 hours a week, to working from home, driving an Aston Martin, a Porsche Turbo and taking endless holidays, I sure as hell would ask how on earth they did it and If I could have a go!
To me it’s almost alien to think that people can go through life week in week out pissed off with their circumstances and not try and do anything about it. To me that has to be the definition of stupid. But hey, I don’t say that to be disrespectful as I know that’s the majority of people.
But here is some advice. Please don’t expect change if you don’t change what you are doing! Complaining about your job every day will not do you any good. Spend that time and energy doing something constructive like reading an ebook or watching a training video. And then taking ACTION on what you learn!
So anyway, it turns out that bar just one mate Carl, I started to distance myself from many of my friends. It wasn’t really a conscious decision or anything like that. I guess like I said before we were just on very different wave lengths and had less and less in common.
Back to how I was feeling… Sorry, I get distracted sometimes
Something that I started to notice was that I had less energy in the day, I wasn’t jumping out of bed like I used to and I was bored of deciding what car I was going to buy next or what 5 start hotel I was going to book.
I started to seriously think about my future and where I wanted to be in a years time, two years time, even ten years time…
One of the things that I learned about myself the previous two years was that I really only liked working with people that were willing to take massive action to see massive change. I was bored of people that thought they could spend a couple of hours a week online and think that all of a sudden their bank balance would change. I even noticed how at many events I would attend that you would get two groups of people. You’d get the ones who stood around complaining that nothing they try ever works and why their lack of results were down to other people letting them down. Or some other stupid excuse.
And then you would get the other groups who congregated talking about the things they were trying that were working or what they were going to do next to see the changes that they wanted. They never had excuses and they were always really positive about the future.
No matter what life threw at them they would keep on going and keep working towards their goals… They would also, like me, only want to spend time with other people that had the same mindset.
Now something that I will say at this point is that I know peoples mindsets can shift. I have see it and witnessed it with some of my very own students. But here is the thing. I am not a psychologist or a motivational guru and to be honest I don’t really wish to be. A lot of people say I am a great motivator. But to be honest I think it’s more that what I say makes a lot of sense and to the right people they get excited about implementing what I am teaching!
Personally, I find spending any time whatsoever with negative complaining people a COMPLETE drain on me and this was something I was spending way to much time doing.
SO!!!!! I made a decision. I made a decision that I would ONLY work with people that didn’t drain the life out of me. People that were prepared to put in a bit of elbow grease and work towards the changes that they wanted. People that when they hit a challenge, would not complain and boo hoo about it – but would bloody well get on with it and sort it. It is actually really easy to suss these people out from the first conversation I ever have with them.
I also partnered up with my business partner Daniel Wagner. An amazing guy who like me, is determined to only attract the right people to our business (The Six Figure Mentors) Daniel built a seven figure business in record time and I noticed had some awesome students… Two coffees later and after seeing each other speak we partnered up and took massive action! More about this in another update
So, I guess the reason I have been very quiet and not sending offer after offer to my subscribers is simply because I have been loving the restructuring of my business.
The way I see most internet marketers is that it’s just a numbers game. Build a list and promote anything and everything to that list. I kind of worked this way myself. Often I would mail something out that I didn’t really know too much about. Most marketers don’t really care too much about the people that they attract and as long as they are willing to spend money they will take it. They are happy to pretty much promote hot air. For me this was the biggest change in my business. I didn’t want to take this route anymore… So I instantly stopped.
I am not saying there is anything wrong with this (I will let you decide)…. It just simply doesn’t get me out of bed. You see since I restructured my business, set new goals and new criteria I have been BOUNCING out of bed in the mornings, I have been full of energy and most of all I am bursting with purpose.
Purpose to help those who TRULY want to take action and who won’t give up because of the small challenges they will inevitably hit when building an online business.
So there you have it. A quick update into the world of Stuart Ross…
In a nutshell, I have been a fussy git only working with a select number of people and working on growing our community and attracting the right people into my business.
What I am Working on
I am working on TheSixFigureMentors.com. This is my primary focus for 2011. I am determined to grow this company into one of the most transparent and value driven companies in the whole internet marketing and make money online industry. We truly focus on teaching people the foundations of a solid online business and the quickest way to build your online presence. We have built a community of like minded, motivated and value drive individuals!
And lastly, I will continue to do the odd workshop and personal coaching package. This is currently strictly by application and you can find out more by calling us on (0044) 0118 9070 562. My next workshop is in March and in central London. I will be teaching exactly how to make money online… Period! Oh and you’ll leave with a business.
Well that’s really it. I am sat in Starbucks right now and out of coffee. So it’s time to move on and take the dogs for a walk!
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All the best,